PROMPT: Close Call

Daily Prompt: Close Call

Tell us about a bullet you’re glad you dodged — when something awful almost happened, but didn’t.

 

In 2005, my long -time hairdresser talked me into “just hanging out” with a guy whom had just lost his wife of 20 years, just a few months before in a car accident. I had known him and his family growing up, so, it’s not that we were strangers, but he is 8 years older, so it’s also not like we had ever been friends either.

I was reluctant because it had only been a few months, however, Donna insisted he just needed to be able to stay busy. I remember asking her if he was still a big golf player, because I had just bought a house on the golf course – meaning, I was just thinking of things to offer to keep him busy. I just didn’t want doom and gloom, because I had just bought the house & was in the midst of a major remodeling job. Also, to be honest, his late wife’s name was the same as mine, his youngest son was only a year older than my son & to top it off, their names are only one letter off than being the same … it was all just kind of too close to home.

But, of course, I relented and told her she could give him my phone number.

He called about a week or so later. We made plans to spend the following Sunday at a festival in Louisville along the river.

Well, we had a blast. We had so much fun. It was one of those rare experiences of meeting someone and instantly finishing each other’s sentences. Not only to each other, but when speaking to others, we would answer their questions the same way. It was nuts.

All of a sudden, all of those obvious similarities we knew about up front, became just the tip of the iceberg of our compatibility. It was like kismet or something.

We went along like that for about the first month. Everything just fit. It was hassle-free.

Then he told me he loved me and he did not like my response; which was simply that we needed to go slow. Yes, it was amazing and unexpected, however, life is still life and we needed to give it a few months to sink in.

Apparently that answer touched some kind of insecurity nerve because it all changed after that. It was like a switch had been flipped. It was weird. I was caught completely off guard.

Then he was gone. Boom. Done. Over. Gone.

His friends called me. Donna called me. They all wanted to know “what happened?” I still don’t think they believed me when I told them I didn’t know.

Well, since then – eight years later – he has been engaged multiple times. He has trampled many girls’ hearts. From what I was told a while back, his sons got in trouble along the way and had ‘issues’ (nothing major, just drinking, smoking pot, etc.)

It seems I was just the first of many. Who knows why. Maybe it is because he didn’t simply stop for a ‘minute’ and let himself feel the raw grief. Maybe he’s been a player his entire life. Maybe he has no spiritual foundation. I don’t know.

All I know is that I dodged a serious bullet. If I had gone by ‘feeling’ alone, I would have jumped on that bandwagon with both feet. Instead, I chose to listen to reason, my intuition, and +GOD+ and pull back on the reigns.

That is one bullet that would have caused serious emotional harm, not only to me, but most importantly to my son.

 

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